#12 Magical Takeaways
- Christian D'Andre
- Sep 23, 2024
- 3 min read
Updated: Feb 14
If there’s anything that I hope you get out of this, it’s to be untraditionally you. What does that look like? It’s bending rules, tweaking advice, and squeezing your own way of doing things into everything you do in life. It’s not being afraid to push back against the way things seem and not accepting life as it initially seems like it has to be. Let’s look at an example.
In one of my posts, I talked about “paying your dues,” a time in life that might have the potential to feel entirely un-magical. But it doesn’t have to be entirely miserable. If it makes you stressed, depressed, and questioning the meaning of it all, then maybe you need to find your own way forward. Maybe there is another path forward that won’t involve so many bloody nightmares (like vegeta deciding to abandon ultra-instinct for his own type of power. Nerd reference!)
And if you get to the same destination, who cares what anyone else thinks? If you aren’t bothering them along the way, then there’s no harm in it all, right? Maybe the real takeaway is to understand the heart behind the wisdom so that we can learn to make our own decisions. Maybe getting to where we want to be is as much about preserving the us that wanted to get there, as much as it is about getting there. Does that even make sense to say?
Let’s think about it like this: maybe the proper way to get in the dating world is to go out and meet tons of people. You do the research, read the studies, and all signs point to getting out there (I actually have no idea if they do or not, but let’s suppose that they do.) So you try and you try, and eventually people-meeting makes you want to barf. You get so sick that you decide the entire dating game isn’t worth it, so you head back to your room to play Halo.
That would be the normal way of doing things.
What if, instead, you collaborated with your extrovert-friend and had him hook you up with someone? It may not be the way you’re supposed to do things, but it works, right? It gets you the results you want without all the icky stuff. There’s a temptation to say that it’s weak to avoid the suffering, but I say a spoonful of sugar makes the medicine go down!
But it may not be the case that you have the luxury of creating your own unique path. You may be forced to take the crappy job, go to school, and ultimately put yourself through a few years of less-than-favorable times. If you have to do it, you have to do it. That may happen. But if it does, don’t just give up your spirit and will altogether. Do whatever you can to fill in the cracks with a personal touch. Eat your favorite foods, find some downtime for your favorite things. Whatever it takes, don’t give up on your ability to want something from your life!
So I pray you find you find the fight inside you to make your life your own. You may feel like you’re trapped, but there’s always something you can take control, to make your life a little better. It may not be a lot. It may feel like a tough choice, but most of the time it will feel a lot better to have done something for yourself. I pray you find the courage to push back against all the ought-to’s of life, and to truly make this world your own.
Until next time
May Peace be your Guide.
And tune in for my next series. I’ll give you a hint where we’re going next:
“Today is a new day.”
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